Must you “Simply be Your self”?

I get quite a lot of questions from individuals asking about…
“Why do I’ve to undergo all of this?” “Why do I’ve to be taught all of this?”
“Why not simply be your self?”
Ah, yeah, we’ve got all heard that one earlier than.
“Simply be your self and you’ll get the woman!”
Now the issue I’ve with the recommendation of “simply be your self” is that this…
When you inform any individual who’s dyslexic making an attempt to learn to learn to simply be himself and consider, though that is nice inspirational gas, it doesn’t change the truth that he’s dyslexic, and he would then perpetually be struggling making an attempt to learn to learn; nonetheless, give him the instruments and train him the right way to use it, and that may assist him greater than the rest.
Or when you inform a newly employed inexperienced technician to simply be himself, do you factor he’s robotically going to be good at his job? No, he needed to go to highschool and have gotten the correct coaching first and get expertise beneath his belt.
Now for any individual who’s fighting ladies all their life, and also you inform him to nonetheless be himself? Then he’ll perpetually be horrible with lady, doing the identical dangerous issues again and again that his outdated self has been doing that destroy his success, until someday he fortunately finds “The One” who falls into his lap like out of some magical future. However the probability of that could be very slight, moreover would you somewhat be answerable for your relationship future?
The exception is if you’re already good with ladies you then could be himself, however why then seek for getting ladies recommendation and undergo all this painful problem; and also you wouldn’t want anyone to inform you to simply be your self since you would already know that.
After which later this assertion developed into “being your finest self”.
What does this imply?
How do you be your finest self?
Do you simply inform any individual to be “his finest self” and magically he will likely be his finest self and robotically be getting all the women he ever dreamed of?
No, it doesn’t work like that.
To be your finest self, nonetheless implies you’re going should work on altering your self as a result of your aren’t but at your “finest self”.
So in the long run being your self will not be they method to go, if you’re not already good at one thing.
Bear in mind because the saying goes, “When you maintain doing the identical factor, you’ll maintain getting the identical end result.”
Or Albert Einstein’s definition of madness:
“Doing the identical factor again and again and anticipating completely different outcomes.”